1. Don't try to impress others. Your ego wants to impress others
with great people you know, with your looks, with the weight you can
Squat or Bench press, with your achievements, with the things you own.
But most of the time all these things just impresses your own ego, that
is all. If you start thinking how to impress others it is ego at work,
let those thoughts calmly leave your mind.
Of course, if someone asks: "Hey, you look muscular, do you workout?" you shouldn't deny it and say "No", simply don't boast about it and don't feel too proud about it. And obviously, don't try to impress with your spirituality, wisdom, humbleness or whatever- because it is Ego at its best and you are missing the whole point of being humble, being wise.
2. Don't blame others. I really like the way Allan Watts explained this thing.
Let's say a child is behaving badly. We can ask the child "Why are you behaving like this?"
The child answers "It's because of my parents"
Then we ask parents "Why do you treat you child like that?
And they answer "Well, because our parents... "
And eventually this chain of excuses leads us to Adam and Eve. So it won't make much difference. Obviously our life conditions are different and it can make a huge impact to us. Some people had very difficult past and some had easier one. But those past events can be used either as an obstacle to grow or as an opportunity to progress.
Example: Two kids are being raised by alcoholic parents in the same environment.
First child- when he grows up, he will be just like his parents, he will be drunk every day, maybe homeless, he will insult, disrespect other people, etc...
And if you asked him: "Why are you living like this?"
He would say: "Because my parents were alcoholics and my environment was awful. What more do you expect from me?"
Second child- when he grows up, he will be very pleasant, loving person, he will always help others, live a joyful life, he will have a job that he loves, etc...
And if you asked him: "Why are you living like this?"
He would say: "Because my parents were alcoholics and my environment was awful. So I understood, that I am not going to live my life like that, I won't make other people suffer like they did. And now I am grateful for that stage of my life, because without it maybe I wouldn't be living such a joyful life now"
Conditions matter, but way more important is how people react to them and how they handle those conditions.
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Of course, if someone asks: "Hey, you look muscular, do you workout?" you shouldn't deny it and say "No", simply don't boast about it and don't feel too proud about it. And obviously, don't try to impress with your spirituality, wisdom, humbleness or whatever- because it is Ego at its best and you are missing the whole point of being humble, being wise.
2. Don't blame others. I really like the way Allan Watts explained this thing.
Let's say a child is behaving badly. We can ask the child "Why are you behaving like this?"
The child answers "It's because of my parents"
Then we ask parents "Why do you treat you child like that?
And they answer "Well, because our parents... "
And eventually this chain of excuses leads us to Adam and Eve. So it won't make much difference. Obviously our life conditions are different and it can make a huge impact to us. Some people had very difficult past and some had easier one. But those past events can be used either as an obstacle to grow or as an opportunity to progress.
Example: Two kids are being raised by alcoholic parents in the same environment.
First child- when he grows up, he will be just like his parents, he will be drunk every day, maybe homeless, he will insult, disrespect other people, etc...
And if you asked him: "Why are you living like this?"
He would say: "Because my parents were alcoholics and my environment was awful. What more do you expect from me?"
Second child- when he grows up, he will be very pleasant, loving person, he will always help others, live a joyful life, he will have a job that he loves, etc...
And if you asked him: "Why are you living like this?"
He would say: "Because my parents were alcoholics and my environment was awful. So I understood, that I am not going to live my life like that, I won't make other people suffer like they did. And now I am grateful for that stage of my life, because without it maybe I wouldn't be living such a joyful life now"
Conditions matter, but way more important is how people react to them and how they handle those conditions.
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